This recession is re-writing the rules on a lot of things, including how we behave. Social stress can take a toll on the social graces. So how can we all just get along?
Over a cup of tea at T Salon in New York City, Lyudmila Bloch described etiquette as something that evolves with time.
"When we have a recession or economic downfall it will affect the way we think and interact," Bloch said.
Rule number one: Bling is out, inconspicuous consumption is in.
"It is no longer in good taste to display your wealth or your affluence. It is actually in bad taste," explained Bloch.
Her book, ‘The Golden Rules of Etiquette,’ includes information about place settings and silverware. But it also has to do with conducting yourself in a manner that's considerate of others.
Let's take Kim Winkelman for example. She got laid off in December.
"If there's a black-tie event or something I normally would have gone to, I just say I'm not available that day to go," she said.
That's a ‘do.’ You should politely decline events that aren't in your budget.
Also, if you’re invited to a wedding and they’re not a close friend, you can decline to attend and a gift isn’t necessary.
Another ‘do’ when it comes to gift giving, think personal instead of pricey. Consider giving a picture or poem.
Couples can give their wedding party the option to wear their own dresses or black suits instead of making them rent tuxes or buy special bridesmaid attire.
Three ‘don’ts’ when people are losing their job: Don’t say ‘It’s not fair’ or ‘Don’t worry’ and don’t avoid them. Instead, listen, or help with their job hunt, and keep in touch.